It is currently 8:03pm and I have been awake for exactly 36 hours and 3 minutes. My stress levels are through the roof. My mother is still sick, Im insecure as hell about my new look, I lack any and all motivation and on top of that I cant sleep. As I sat here listening to the band I obsessed over in my early teens I realized how important it is to have a source of comfort in times of stress. Music has always been a source of comfort for me, if I want to drown things out, I turn up the speakers. So in an attempt to dive back into my routine, Id like to talk about some sources of comfort, and I encourage you to do the same in the comments below.
A support system is one of the most important things to have. Whether its friends, family, doctors, helplines or online support, we all need someone to turn to. Knowing there is someone that cares about you and is willing to listen often helps massively. A group of my friends came over on my birthday a few weeks back and we all just sat talking and it was at thar moment I knew we were in a group of people that would do anything for each other, and that feeling has got me through some tough moments since. If you’re not comfortable talking to those around you, theres always other options. Katie added an amazing resource page to the blog which can be found here – https://kmwblogs.com/2020/08/10/resources-and-support/
We all have a show or movie we turn to when things are bad. Mine are Scooby Doo, Donnie Darko and Its Always Sunny in Philadelphia. Its nice to just get lost in another world even for a short amount of time, so media is a huge source of comfort and distraction for me. Even on my darkest days, Scooby Doo will never fail to make me laugh, and I think every one of my friends that has been to my house has been subjected to Donnie Darko at least once. It’s the little things that make the most difference.
Places of Comfort
One of my favourite bands has a lyric that says “my favourite set of stairs is the one up to your room” and I never really understood what it meant until I was in a relationship myself. You find comfort in the strangest or places. Nandos. Tara Street Train Station. A tiny hotel in the middle of Salthill. One of my favourite places to go when I need peace is strangly enough somewhere with mixed memories. Memories of fishing with my dad when I was younger, then a suicide attempt. Memories of a photoshoot and adventure with my boyfriend, and then a nasty breakup. Most recently, laughter and smiles at my 21st birthday party. I go down to this place, sit by the river and realise how far Ive come.
Comfort is different for everyone, and theres no one specific fix for a bad day. We can prepare for them however with some of the ideas above. If you take anything from this post please have a support system. I will also be linking Katies post on creating a self-care comfort kit, for those particularly bad days.
Thank you for reading,
Lots of love,